tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7894753400596806698.post7546698246739969373..comments2012-01-18T13:22:37.720-08:00Comments on ...If It Be Truth...: Think It Not Strange....Donnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08233687597289743076noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7894753400596806698.post-68376304067409016912009-10-28T17:58:01.578-07:002009-10-28T17:58:01.578-07:00Millie,
Excellent questions! But I do not have all...Millie,<br />Excellent questions! But I do not have all the answers :-).<br /><br />I can tell you a few things about what I've learned however! <br /><br />My oldest is 17 and I have yet to have an adult child. But there are things that I've learned from others.<br /><br />Being "mom" is who we are but there does seem to come a time, when children reach a certain age, that we can over-mother. There is a difference in 'mothering' and advising because we love them-and controlling them because 'we said so'. Somewhere in there is the line I think. If we try to control- that's not healthy and will push them away or cause trouble in their relationships. If we just give advice and love them regardless, then we build relationships. (And disagreements can be had safely in a good relationship.)<br /><br />But- <br />if the adult child grows up and moves back home or is still in the home and chooses a life that would wrongly influence younger siblings in the home, then I think a more drastic action might be necessary.<br />There is such a thing as 'tough love'. You know that kind I'm sure- It says something like this; "if you continue to do this, then I have to do....." <br /><br />Have you read any Dobson books?<br />How about the "Boundaries" books from Minrith-Meier?<br /><br />Prayer plus action is sometimes right,<br />but other times, prayer alone is all that we have. But oh what a great thing it is!<br /><br />Millie, you can email me if you like as this is not so private. laptopmail(at)twlakes.netDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08233687597289743076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7894753400596806698.post-47709944080946484652009-10-28T16:47:14.866-07:002009-10-28T16:47:14.866-07:00Donna, What happens when the child is now an adult...Donna, What happens when the child is now an adult and makes choices that we do not agree with? Or now has 'beliefs' that are not what they used to have? At this point, as the parent, other than praying do we have any options? And if prayer is our (my) only option then why do I feel so concerned about this? Shouldn't prayer help me with these concerns? Can you believe I used so many question marks in this comment?Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10530259841120988975noreply@blogger.com