Monday, July 6, 2009

A great example: watching the tongue

I told my kids this story tonight and then gave them a lot of Q&A, in hopes of really drilling in the point!

I started off by telling them that "there's a time to talk and a time to be quiet" and I won't always be there (or know) when those times will be for them but as their Mother, I have to give them instruction.

I told them about a friend of mine, from back home and reminded them about the last time we seen her and her family. That peaked their interest! :-)

I told them about a conversation that her and I had that day.

I said, "I want to compliment you on something." She looked up with a bit of a surprised look on her face but didn't say anything just waited for me to finish.

I said, "In all the time that I've known you, I have never heard you say a negative or critical word about your husband. I think that's very commendable."

She looked down and then back up at me and said very bashfully, " know, I've really tried to watch that. See, one time, after my husband started a new job someone asked me how his new job was going. I told them that he was working a lot but that it was a good job and he really did like it. Well, a few days later, my husband came in from work and I could tell that he was upset about something. He looked hurt. I asked how his day was and if something was bothering him. He told me that someone had told him that I had said he was not spending any time with his family and kids. He was so hurt, so I have really tried to watch what I say since then because I would never want to hurt him that way again."

I went on with my kids with Q&A about the dangers of talk! See, my friend NEVER said what got back to her husband. And what she meant as just small talk was twisted into BIG TALK!

Then I gave them the moral of the story (which I've had to learn the hard way!):
Don't give people bullets to shoot you with!
a true story

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